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Divorce has become part of life in the 21st century. The stigma of being divorced that once existed no loger exists. This does not mean that divorce is an easy decision to make. There are many reasons why people decide to get divorced. The most common reason that I have seen through talking to hundreds of people is due to infidelity.

I personally would not be able to forgive infidelity. If someone cheated on me I would be deceiving myself if I thought that I would be able to forgive them and stay in the relationship. A lot of the so called “experts” also try to get people to reconcile when there is a cheater in the relationship.

If you want to reconcile with your unfaithful spouse, you should certainly try to do so through counselling. It would save a lot of heartache and make life easier if you both wanted to stay together after the affair. This is a choice only you can make. If you are pressured into this choice without really believing it, you won’t be happy for long. If you feel betrayed, don’t let anyone tell you that you have to work it out if you don’t really want to. Why suffer if you don’t have to?

Another reason why divorces happen is that one of the partners fall out of love. This happens for various reasons. Over time people change. It is unfortunate when one spouse decides to end the marriage due to boredom or lack of interest. It is usually painful for the spouse who thought everything was ok.

These reasons for divorce also lead to all out battles for child custody, joint assets, alimony, etc… You really can lose a lot of the life you’ve built by not having the right method for your divorce.

Legal fees can also be extremely expensive. Your lawyer will charge you for every minute that you consult with them. What often happens is that you tell your lawyer “I can only afford to pay $700.” The lawyer will then set his watch and only work on your case until your $700 is spent. There is a lot of information your lawyer could be sharing with you but won’t. The lawyer knows that you can not afford more than you have to pay, so the lawyer simply doesn’t work as hard as you need them to.

When this happens, you miss out on a lot of knowledge that would help you get more money out of the divorce, get more custody rights, and get more emmotionally out of the divorce. The other alternative is that you tell the lawyer “Do everything you can to get me what I want”. The only problem with this is that the lawyer will bill you thousands of dollars for all the work they do for you. The lawyer is a professional and needs to get paid for their work. After all, they could spend their time on another client and get the same rate.

There is a way to get the benefit of thousands of dollars worth of knowledge at bargain basement prices. I think you already have the tools to know where to look. If you can’t figure it out, just ask me.

Good Luck,

Kyle Chambers

About The Author

Kyle Chambers is a specialist at getting the most financially and mentally out of your divorce without spending thousands. Hundreds of people have already benefitted by little-known tricks in getting more money, custody rights, and just about everything else you want from your divorce. To get the most out of your divorce go to www.DivorceMethod.com.

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1. “Is it better for a woman to marry a man who loves her than a man she loves. “
   – Anonymous

2. “All marriages are happy. It’s living together afterwards that is difficult. “
   – Anonymous

3. “Getting married is very much like going to a restaurant with friends. You order what you want, then when you see what the other fellow has, you wish you had ordered that.”–
   Anonymous

4. “It’s not as great a day for the bride as she thinks. She’s not marrying the best man. “
   – Anonymous

5. “Marriage is a romance in which the hero dies in the first chapter. “
   – Anonymous

6. “Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his second wife to his success.”–
   Jim Backus

7. “Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner. “
   – Amy Bloom

8. “Marriage has no guarantees. If that’s what you’re looking for, go live with a car battery.”–
   Erma Bombeck

9. “I married the first man I ever kissed. When I tell this to my children they just about throw up. “
   – Barbara Bush

10. “All tragedies are finished by a death, all comedies by a marriage.”–
    Lord Byron

11. “If variety is the spice of life, marriage is the big can of leftover Spam. “
    – Johnny Carson

12. “If you are afraid of loneliness, don’t marry. “
    – Chekhov

13. “Marriage is an adventure, like going to war. “
    – G. K. Chesterton

14. “The most happy marriage I can imagine to myself would be the union of a deaf man to a blind woman. “
    – S. T. Coleridge

15. “I never married because I have three pets at home that answer the same purpose as a husband. I have a dog that growls every morning, a parrot that swears all afternoon and a cat that comes home late at night. “–
    Marie Corelli

16. “I’d marry again if I found a man who had 15 million and would sign over half of it to me before the marriage and guarantee he’d be dead within a year. “
    – Bette Davis

17. “Marriage is a lottery in which men stake their liberty and women their happiness. “
    – Madame de Rieux

18. “Whatever you may look like, marry a man your own age – as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight.”–
    Phyllis Diller

19. “There’s only one way to have a happy marriage and as soon as I learn what it is I’ll get married again.”–
    Clint Eastwood

20. “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invaribly they are both disappointed.”–
    Albert Einstein

21. “A man’s wife has more power over him than the state has.”–
    Ralph Waldo Emerson

22. “Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterwards. “
    – Benjamin Franklin

23. “A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished. “
    – Zsa Zsa Gabor

24. “I’m an excellent housekeeper. Every time I get a divorce, I keep the house. “
    – Zsa Zsa Gabor

25. “I don’t think I’ll get married again. I’ll just find a woman I don’t like and give her a house. “
    – Lewis Grizzard

26. “If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married. “
    – Katharine Hepburn

27. “Marrying a man is like buying something you’ve been admiring for a long time in a shop window. You may love it when you get it home, but it doesn’t always go with everything else in the house. “
    – Jean Kerr

28. “I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury. “
    – Groucho Marx

29. “Politics doesn’t make strange bedfellows, marriage does. “
    – Groucho Marx

30. “Eighty percent of married men cheat in America. The rest cheat in Europe. “
    – Jackie Mason

31. “Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness of sins. “
    – Langdon Mitchell

32. “A good marriage is at least 80 percent good luck in finding the right person at the right time. The rest is trust. “
    – Nanette Newman

33. “When marrying, one should ask oneself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this woman into your old age? “
    – Friedrich Nietzsche

34. “Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said; after marriage, he’ll fall asleep before you finish saying it. “
    – Helen Roland

35. “By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”–
    Socrates

36. “Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry. “
    – Gloria Steinem

37. “I’ve yet to be on a campus where most women weren’t worrying about some aspect of combining marriage, children, and a career. I’ve yet to find one where many men were worrying about the same thing. “
    – Gloria Steinem

38. “Loves seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century. “
    – Mark Twain

39. “Marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready for an institution. “
    – Mae West

40. “Men marry because they are tired; women because they are curious. Both are disappointed.”
    – Oscar Wilde

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The Supreme Court of Canada recently ruled that the emotional devastation brought on by a cheating husband can be factored into a wronged spouse’s ability to earn a livelihood and her need for ongoing spousal support.

When a couple marries they make a deal about the way they will live. The marriage vows they say create promises. As long as they keep their individual part of the commitment their relationship will continue in a functional way. When one spouse believes the other will provide for them financially while they take on the responsibility to create their home and perhaps raise their children, the homemaker relinquishes their ability to construct their own career and build financial security for themselves. By entering into this partnership the belief is that it will sustain them throughout their lives. Even if the homemaker chooses to return to the workforce, they can never rebuild what was left behind in the relationships and experience as the workforce changes and the skill sets that are required evolve. They are at a disadvantage.

When the one believed to be a life partner has an intimate emotional and/or physical relationship with someone who posed as a friend, the double betrayal can be immobilizing. Self doubt clouds logical thinking. How could I have trusted them? Anger and sadness replace trust and confidence. It can also be financially very frightening. Security is shattered and doubts surface about one’s ability to survive.

When a marriage ends some people cope, creating new ways to live, forming new relationships and are able to become financially self-sufficient. Others do not have the support, guidance, life skills and fortitude to recreate their lives.

Personal growth is a challenging process that many resist. Clinging to the known feels better than risking something new. Letting go of the old expectations can be difficult.

Dreaming new dreams and setting new goals is frightening when the basis of life had seemed so certain.

It is important to:

1. find hope that life will go on,

2. discover a new sense of Self,

3. learn new ways to communicate,
4. let go of old expectations,
5. work through to forgiveness,
6. understand what happened, and
7. accept personal responsibility for being part of the breakdown.

There is no such thing in my opinion, as no fault divorce. Both parties fail in some way to keep their marriage healthy. Both parties fail their children. There can be personal growth but there will always be memories. If the new life is better the past can be left behind as a learning experience. If the new life is disadvantaged, at a lower standard of living or a struggle to survive financially, triggers to old pain and a reopening of the thoughts and feelings that life once was very different, can keep the resentment alive.

Too often one partner is at a significant financial disadvantage due to the deal they made. It takes two to create a marriage but one person can break the deal rather than work to repair the relationship. When they choose to cheat on their vows their financial promises need to be kept.

Hurray for the Canadian Supreme Court in seeing some sense of accountability and responsibility placed on the husband who strayed. Let’s hope the wife is able to move forward through the process of healing.

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Here are some useful tips on joint bank accounts and divorce. If you’ve recently been through a divorce – or are contemplating one – you may want to look closely at issues involving joint bank accounts.

Joint Bank Account: Your income, financial assets, and credit history – and your spouse’s – are considerations for a joint account. No matter who handles the household bills, you and your spouse are responsible for seeing that debts are paid. A creditor who reports the credit history of a joint account to credit bureaus must report it in both names.

An application combining the financial resources of two people may present a stronger case to a creditor who is granting a loan or credit card. But because two people applied together for the credit, each is responsible for the debt.

This is true even if a divorce decree assigns separate debt obligations to each spouse. Former spouses who run up bills and don’t pay them can hurt their ex-partner’s credit histories on jointly-held accounts.

Divorce : If you’re considering divorce or separation, pay special attention to the status of your joint bank accounts. If you maintain joint accounts during this time, it’s important to make regular payments so your credit record won’t suffer. As long as there’s an outstanding balance on a joint account, you and your spouse are responsible for it.

If you divorce, you may want to close joint accounts or accounts in which your former spouse was an authorised user. You can also ask the creditor to convert these accounts to individual accounts.

The creditor can require you to reapply for credit on an individual basis and then, based on your new application, extend or deny you credit.

You may freely reprint this article provided the author’s biography remains intact:

John Mussi is the founder of Direct Online Loans who help UK homeowners find the best available loans via the http://www.directonlineloans.co.uk website.

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In this series of articles we’re going to cover one of the most difficult and time consuming things a person can do, planning a wedding.

Many people wonder why when planning a wedding you’re told to start a year in advance. Well, after reading this series of articles you’ll realize just why that much time is needed. Planning a wedding, for the person who has never done it before, can be an overwhelming and daunting task. Just making the checklist of things to do can take days or weeks. Hopefully, this article series will make some of the work a little easier.

The first thing you need to do when planning your wedding is to pick a date. If you think this is easy, think again. There are many variables that factor into the date you pick and what obstacles you may run into on that date. For example. Want a February 14 wedding for Valentine’s Day because you think it’s romantic? Try not to forget that if you’re living in a severe cold weather climate that you may very well end up having your wedding in a blizzard or not at all, especially if your guests can’t make it. Are you a patriotic soul who wants a July 4 wedding? Well, you better remember that this is a big holiday and getting a hall for this date may not be so easy. Also, don’t forget that many of the people you will want to invite may have plans for that day, which is usually very big for family get togethers and barbecues. So pick your date carefully.

The next thing you’ll need to do after picking the date is to notify your clergyman to make sure that he is available for that date. Again, if you’re picking a popular holiday this may present a problem. If your regular clergyman can’t make it for that date then you’ll either have to find someone else, or, if you are set on this particular person then you’re going to have to pick a different date. This is why picking your date is so important. Everything hinges on it.

After notifying your clergy the next thing is to set a budget. This may be one of the hardest things you will do. Everyone wants a big lavish wedding. But not everybody can afford a big wedding. You have to look at what you can afford regardless of how large your circle of family and friends is and how many people you want to invite. Once you know how big or small your budget is that will pretty much determine everything from this point on, to what hall you choose to how expensive a wedding dress you’ll buy.

Then comes the task of choosing your guest list. This is going to be largely influenced by your budget but even in the case of an unlimited budget there are only so many people you will be able to invite. The hall itself may have a maximum capacity. The best thing to do when making your guest list is go through immediate family first. Remember, you have two families to think of, the bride’s and the groom’s. Somewhere along the line compromises will have to be made. Make them together. Remember, this is both your wedding day.

In the next article in this series we’ll pick up with setting a time for the ceremony, picking a location for the ceremony, rehearsal and reception.

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Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to Weddings
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Some in the Christian Right political strong hold say that we must prevent gay marriage in our nation. Some say that the Gay community is going around disrespecting others and demanding respect, as they call people names such as liars, homophics, stupid, fearful, ignorant. Where as, both sides have their views, we must all understand that allowing a division in our nation over infighting over the gay marriage issue does no one any good.

Some very out spoken Christian Right members say no one should support gay marriage when a group acts with such behavior, it is rewarding the wrong things in doing so. They say that we must all stand tall against gay marriage and make our votes heard and discharge any politician, which promotes the thought.

Others against gay marriage contend that the gay and lesbian community will not control their fringe and denies that their tactics are wrong. If you support such vindictive behavior by allowing gay marriage you do a disservice to our society and civilization. Gay marriage issue needs to take a back seat for 10-years until that group can control there attacking and vendetta charged ways.

Some on the far-right Christian Right say that they cannot be trusted with the support of the whole and they owe an apology to all straight couples for their abominable behavior. It seems like a whole lot of furious sound out there and who knows what comes next, but we can be insured on more controversy over this subject in the future can’t we? Consider all this in 2006.

“Lance Winslow” – Online Think Tank forum board. If you have innovative thoughts and unique perspectives, come think with Lance; http://www.WorldThinkTank.net/wttbbs/

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Many other cultures have developed traditions regarding a bride to be and her hair. For example in China it is customary for a married women to do the bride’s hair. Since she is experienced with being married and seen as a successful wife she can help ease the nervous bride. Traditionally she will also speak of the good fortune of the bride and abut the future of the couple.

In the United States and Western cultures we do not have these deeper traditions but many recognize the importance of a great hairdo. Often women spend a great deal of time planning a wedding, picking the perfect dress and labor over the makeup the day of the wedding. It makes sense then to spend just as much time on the hairstyle that will be worn. By following the steps below and planning ahead you can ensure that the wedding hairstyle will be the perfect final touch to a beautiful bride.

Step 1 Find a Hairdresser

Several months before the wedding it is important to pick out a hairdresser that you can build a relationship with. You want this to be someone that you can trust and have built a rapport with. Ask to see samples of hairstyles they have done and even go for a cut early on to see how they work. This will help you find the right person for you.

Step 2 Set up a Consultation Appointment

Often hairstylists will do a consultation appointment with you where you can meet them one on one and discuss hairstyle ideas for your wedding day. You will want to talk about the shape of your face, the wedding gown you will be wearing and possible styles that you are thinking about. The hairdresser can help you in picking styles that will flatter your features and work well with your wedding dress. For example with long hair an updo can work very well and give a very classic look. Or if you want to wear your hair down and lose it can give a more romantic feeling. Discuss these options with a trained hairstylist and see what they think would be best. They see tons of people’s hair day in and day out and have a professionally trained eye and often can spot things that you might not even think of.

Step 3 Practice Session

A week or two before the big day set up a practice session. During this time you can go in to the hairstylist and have them actually style your hair like they will for the wedding day. This will give you a chance to feel and look at the style in reality and see what you think. Spend some time with your hair in this style and see if it is comfortable. It is also important for you to get comfortable with the style beforehand so you can wear it like it is just part of your normal style and elegance. Also walk around the salon and see if it feels comfortable and if anything comes lose. You don’t want to be struggling and fighting with your hair on your big day so make sure it works for you and make adjustments to the plan as needed.

You also might want to wear a dress with a similar neckline and shape as your wedding dress. Traditionally it is a bad omen to wear a wedding dress before the big day but find something that is similar. This will help you in establishing if you like the style or not.

Step 4 The Big Day

It is important to go in as relaxed as possible. It at all possible it can be very nice to get a full body message the day or night before the wedding so that you are as relaxed as possible. Make your appoint hours before so that you will not be rushed or feel panicked.

By following these 4 easy steps and planning ahead your hairstyle should be as comfortable to you as something you wear everyday. You want your hairstyle to feel like that old pair of comfortable sweatpants or pajamas yet something that looks like a million bucks. By practicing before hand and consulting with a trained and professional hairstylist you can ensure that you will feel comfortable and clam on the big day. Well, maybe not but at least you won’t have to worry about your hair on top of everything else.

Chris Ryerson is the webmaster of Plan Best Wedding. A great resource for: wedding hairstyles

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You want the wedding of your dreams, but the road to it seems to be a nightmare. The quadrillions of details, battling bridesmaids, mother-in-law madness… It can lead to sleepless nights, cranky days, and lots of frayed nerves.

An anxious day or two probably won’t do you in, but prolonged stress can cause real problems. It creates mental tension that can quickly rise to a boil (Bridezilla, anyone?) Stress wreaks havoc on our bodies, lowering our ability to fight illness (and causing wedding-day breakouts and honeymoon colds.) Lingering anxiety can make sleep difficult, which leads to more stress, creating an endless vicious cycle.

Of course, when planning a wedding it’s impossible to completely avoid stress, but there are ways to minimize it and keep it under control. Relaxation is crucial to being able to maintain your peace of mind. Imagine a rubber band: it can be pulled, then return to a relaxed shape, then be pulled again, no problem. Now imagine pulling it, holding on to that tension, then pulling it some more. Eventually it will snap. A person who is relaxed is better equipped to deal with the inevitable pressure, and like the rubber band bounce back quickly.

Take Time for Bliss

The number one mistake women (and men) make in preparing for their wedding is going non-stop. But the truth is, to function well we need downtime. And not just five hours of fitful sleep at night. We also need a break during the day to clear the fog from our brains. If only you could take a vacation… But wait – you can!

Don’t wait for your honeymoon; take a Bliss Trip, a mini-vacation for your mind. Find a quiet place to sit or lie down, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then imagine yourself in a wonderful luxury retreat, created just for you. Perhaps a sandy beach on a tropical isle (think of the warmth of the sun and the musical crash of the waves.) Or maybe a cozy cabin tucked in the snow is more your style (with a crackling fire and a downy comforter.) Simply imagine yourself experiencing something delightful, something relaxing. A 15-minutes Bliss Trip each day provides many of the same benefits as a real holiday – and you don’t even have to pack!

Be Picture Perfect

Does the idea of standing in front of a crowd of people, even adoring loved-ones, send you into a tizzy? A little mental rehearsal will calm you right down. Simply imagine yourself behaving just as you want, with the situation turning out perfectly. See yourself walking gracefully down the aisle, saying your vows with confidence, feeling calm and having a radiant smile.

Athletes have been using this trick for years. They know that by picturing a certain outcome, say the ball going through the hoop, they are much more likely to achieve exactly what they want. Mentally practice those things you think might be uncomfortable. Imagine them being easy and turning out well and they’ll probably exceed your expectations.

Set the Mood for Love

Some brides and grooms focus so intensely on the details that it’s hard to let go and enjoy themselves. Don’t find yourself fretting about the buffet in the middle of the “I do’s.” Make sure you think about how you want to experience your special day. Close your eyes and spend time reflecting on how you want to feel. Imagine yourself relaxed and full of joy. Focus on that special connection you have with your fiancé. Imagine the support of your family and friends. It’s a lovely way to remind yourself to enjoy the dream that you are turning into reality.

Q&A

Q. How can I fit a Bliss Trip into my workday?

A. All you need is a place where you can comfortably close your eyes. Bliss on the bus, or sit it in your parked car for a few minutes and picture your imaginary retreat (a sure-fire cure for road rage). Take advantage of a nearby park, or use headphones at your computer to play quiet music. Heck, even the office bathroom works in a pinch.

Q. What if I can’t “see” my wedding? I’ve tried visualization in the past, and it just doesn’t work for me.

A. Remember when you got engaged? Close your eyes and think back on it for a moment. No matter who you are, something will come to mind. Everyone has the ability to create a story in their imagination. Some people do see things almost as if it were a movie, but others may instead get fleeting images, or a feeling, perhaps a song, or flashes of memory. Don’t worry about “seeing;” focus on “experiencing.”

Q. My mind keeps running from my mini-vacation back to my to-do list. What can I do to stay focused on relaxation?

A. Let someone else do the driving! You can use a pre-recorded Bliss Trip CD which leads you through relaxing and fun experiences (like swimming with dolphins, or flying through the clouds). Or take turns with your fiancé playing a tour guide of the imagination and lead each other to distant locals (“Imagine we are floating together in a gondola over the canals of Venice. The sun is shining and there is a light breeze…”) It’s a fun way to share a little time together, and you might get some great ideas for your honeymoon.

Q: There’s just so much to do and so many details. Is there anything I can do when I feel overwhelmed?

A. Yes. Breathe. It sounds simple, but most of us do a poor job of it. Close your eyes and take a full breath down deep in your belly. Let it out and pause for a moment, still sitting with your eyes closed. Take another deep breath, and just notice how your body begins to relax. Take as long as you like, and when your composure is regained open your eyes a face the task-at-hand with a greater sense of calm.

Bliss Trips are the creation of Kerstin Sjoquist, who combines her background as a Juilliard-trained actor and Certified Hypnotherapist to produce inner journeys that relax and transform. “In leading my workshops it became clear to me that most of us are in desperate need of a break. Even a brief bit of downtime can do wonders, so I created Bliss Trips to be a fun and inspirational way to give yourself some peace. The CDs are fabulous, because they do all the work for you, but sometimes you just need a bit of inspiration in the moment, and that’s why I created a Bliss-Trip a-Day. You can Bliss in the shower, Bliss on the bus… if you can close your eyes you can Bliss!”

To view today’s Bliss Trip, see samples of previous meditations, copy the free syndication code, or sign up for the email service go to: http://www.blisstrips.com

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It’s a common practice, nowadays, for there to be a wedding rehearsal the night before the wedding. Yes, this is something that your wedding planner can take care of for you as well. They need to ensure that you can use the church or venue for the wedding and restaurant; and that you won’t be interrupted by people not involved in the ceremony.

The bride and groom, their parents and their entourage are asked to be present. Each person is asked to stand or walk-in just as they will at the actual event. The difference is, no one is wearing their wedding outfit, just regular clothes. The point of this rehearsal is to have everyone familiar with where they should be at specific points in the wedding, and it familiarizes the entourage on what they should do: the flower girls strewing petals, the giving of the ring, when the couple will read their vows (if they made their own especially).

Dinner usually follows at either the place for the reception or a nearby restaurant. Some couples opt to taste their actual menu during the rehearsal dinner though it’s not necessary. Again they go through the steps of the reception but without the actual accessories and of course in a shorter time. No actual cake slicing here!

This gives the families a chance to celebrate the upcoming nuptials in a more relaxed way. This kind of gathering helps form a bond between the new family. As all married couples learn, marriage isn’t just about uniting two people; it’s about uniting two families.

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While wedding toasts are very common, it can be difficult to give a great
toast if you’ve never done it before. Sure, you see the movies where toasts are spoken as if they are poetry, seemingly with no forethought or effort. You might find it difficult to do this, which is why you should give a toast like the famous. Be prepared! Even mega stars such as George Clooney who just found out he will be hosting Brad and Angelina’s wedding come prepared. Sure, he is the typical alpha male that seems relaxed and ready for anything, but do not kid yourself into believing that he will be able to host the wedding and give a toast without some planning! There will be plenty of people at Brad and Angelina’s wedding as well as any other upcoming celebrity wedding that will have had some help in writing their toast for the famous couple!

Do Some Research

Search your library or even the Internet for some great quotes on weddings to
sort of incorporate into your speech. You don’t have to do something overly
tacky or sentimental if that is not your personality, but there are some great
sentiments that can help you express your thoughts, feelings, and happiness for
the new couple. Most famous people have toasts and speeches prepared for them,
and when you do some research you are basically using something old or something
you’ve found elsewhere to really help you say what you need to say in an elegant
way! Unfortunately, most of us do not have script writers on hand to help us
write a toast, so the best thing you can do is look up some great toasts that
have been used in history.

Use What You Know

If you know that the couple really likes a certain poet, look at some of the
poems by the poet, and see if you can’t somehow incorporate a line or a thought
of the poet. This is what many famous people do because it shows that they
really thought about the couple when planning their toast, instead of just
writing something really generic. Using what you know is always the best idea,
and if you don’t know much, well then you just have to sort of wing it, but
using sayings from history or from famous authors or other celebrities is a
great idea. It’s very hard to find actual celebrity wedding toasts that have
been used in the past because these things are usually kept private, but look
for sayings on love, marriage, and living a happy, healthy life.

Some Ideas

A couple of ideas are written below to help you start thinking in the right
direction. Remember that toasts usually are a bit silly, so get in the right
frame of mind, and start planning how you will give your celebrity-esque toast!
Below are two commonly used toasts that have undoubtedly been used for
celebrities past and present.

Idea #1: Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.

Idea #2: Seek a happy marriage with wholeness of heart, but do not expect

to reach the Promised Land without going through some wilderness together.

These ideas should give you some idea of what you are aiming for. Remember
that even the most practiced celebrity plans for any and all public appearances
and speaking, so plan for yours to make sure that your thoughts come out as well
thought out as they should be!

Article by James Nardel, expert author at EasyWeddingToasts.com For more information on free wedding speeches and wedding toasts, free toasting tips with speech samples visit http://www.easyweddingtoasts.com

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